August 2011
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South Park S2E12
Stan’s mom: Stanley, you know you’re the most important thing to me, right? Stan: If that’s true, then get back together with Dad, for me! Stan’s mom: Stanley, you have to understand how divorce works. When I say you’re the most important thing to me, what I mean is you’re the most important thing after me and my happiness and my new romances. Stan: Oh.
I...
July 2011
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“Staying deeply in love with someone happens gradually and requires conscious...”
– Founder of eHarmony: On Second Thought, Don’t Get Married
It’s not that you shouldn’t get married; just understand the above before you say ‘I do’
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our culture propagates a billion lies about love, but there is a better way. love is work; it doesn’t just happen. it’s also very...
June 2011
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The "Try Before You Buy" Approach to Sex →
Greg Koukl:
The first problem with the “try before you buy” approach is that it reduces sex to physical mechanics. The title of a well-known book, Sex Begins in the Kitchen, makes a great point: A critical part of our sexual fulfillment has nothing to do with what goes on in the bedroom, a truth women understand better than men.
Simply put, the power of sex and the effectiveness...
December 2010
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I Looked For Love In Your Eyes
I saved my best for you. Other girls may have given themselves away, But I believed in the dream. A husband, a wife, united as one forever. Nervous, first time, needing assurance of your love, I looked for it in your eyes Mere inches from mine. But what I saw made my soul run and hide. Gone was the tenderness I’d come to know I saw a stranger, cold and hard Distant, evil, revolting. I looked for...
October 2010
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Pod Porn
Douglas Wilson:
One of the older fears about pornography that has not been borne out has been the fear that widespread pornography would create a sexually enflamed male populace. But what has happened is that porn has actually dampened sexual interest in real women, serving many men as a cheap substitute. When it comes to real people, and real lives, and real beds, it turns out that...
August 2010
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What does love look like in marriage?
Excerpts from Paul David Tripp’s What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage:
Love is being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of your husband or wife without impatience or anger.
Love is actively fighting the temptation to be critical and judgmental toward your spouse, while looking for ways to encourage and praise.
Love is the daily commitment to...
July 2010
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“Turning to relationships, Solomon says that men are to live joyfully with their...”
– Douglas Wilson | Joy at the End of the Tether: The Inscrutable Wisdom of Ecclesiastes
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June 2010
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“It seems that lawyers in the U.K. are reporting that the growth and popularity...”
– Divorce - Facebook Made Me Do It! … .
May 2010
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Advice to Young Couples →
Good friends support a marriage: Marriages are the best demonstrations of C.S. Lewis’ point that groups of friends amplify enjoyment of each individual. We often fall in love with someone for things they do when they are interacting with others; withdrawal from other relationships removes this pleasure. A close friend is able to personally remind a frustrated wife that her husband is a...
“When sin entered the world, it ruined the harmony of marriage not because it...”
– John Piper | Lionhearted and Lamblike: The Christian Husband as Head, Part 1
April 2010
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“The legitimacy of your ‘devotion time’ is only as solid as the...”
– TheResurgence: How Do I Pastor My Family?
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How Do I Pastor My Family?
3. Time To Play
We eat dinner at 6:00PM. So I walk in the door and devote myself to the kids for 20-30 minutes. Rarely do I take 5 steps into the house before having a 5 year old around my left leg and a 3 year old around my right leg (and now, often, a baby in my arms). Dads, your kids are ready to see you. Ready to punch you. Ready to kiss you. Ready to play. Ready to build. Ready to read....
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“Husbands/dads, don’t clock-out on your way home; be ready to be present...”
– TheResurgence: How Do I Pastor My Family?
Keep an eye out for more quotes from this excellent, practical guide.
“If you touched your wife as much as you touch your iPhone your marriage would be...”
– quoted here
“Keeping to one woman is a small price for so much as seeing one woman. To...”
– G. K. Chesterton in Orthodoxy
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“Dads set the temperature in the home, not moms. You’ve heard it said,...”
– Take Your Vitamin Z
March 2010
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How Much Do I Need to Know About My Potential... →
Russel D. Moore:
What’s important for you to know is how he views sexual immorality. A man who will brush off past fornication as “no big deal” from which he’s “moved on” is a man with a conscience trained to do the same thing with future adultery…. On the other hand, your dismissing him automatically on the basis of immorality is also dangerous. If he is repentant, seeing his past sin...
“Marriage, in what is evidently its most popular version, is now on the one hand...”
– Wendell Berry (via ayjay)
“…studies have shown that much poverty in the U.S. is sexually driven. That...”
– BreakPoint
“We labor for virtue because God has already labored for us and is at work in us....”
– John Piper (via)
http://marrywell.org →
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“Demanded by those who claimed that no-fault divorce would be more humane, the...”
– Al Mohler
“The revolt against vows has been carried in our day even to the extent of a...”
– G. K. Chesterton, “In Defense of Rash Vows” (via ayjay)
February 2010
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“If a girl wants to be impressed with a young man, she needs to see how he speaks...”
– Douglas Wilson
“Often guys will say, “I love Susie.” This does not necessarily mean...”
– Douglas Wilson
“Your marriage may be good. It may even be great. You may have grown together in...”
– Paul Tripp (via Justin Taylor)
“Even after years of marriage keep using words like “Come” and “Let’s.” Be a man....”
– Kevin DeYoung
“There is no doubt about it: too many of us are trying to have hundred dollar...”
– Paul Tripp (via Justin Taylor)
“This is why Mark Sanford and the Gosselins matter. As Caitlin Flanagan points...”
– Matthew Lee Anderson: Marriage In A Media Age
January 2010
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8 Things That Destroyed Our Marriage →
September 2009
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“The Kansas City Royals have been referred to as the laughingstock of baseball,...”
– Sex and Baseball - Marriage Partnership
August 2009
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“Marriage then is not so much about us and what we seek to do as it is about...”
– Marriage is not about Justice, but Jesus
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“New research shows that when married people become single again, whether by...”
– Divorce, It Seems, Can Make You Ill - NYT
via Breakpoint, which comments:
The Times is quick to claim that staying in a bad marriage can lead to physical problems, too. But it’s good news that major news outlets are writing articles like this. For decades, they have trumpeted the idea that...
What's Wrong with Happiness: When marriage fails... →
The second secret weapon is to turn our obsession to satisfy ourselves into love for others. Rather than focus on others, too many Christians have bought into the cultural value of individualism. We think personal independence is so great that we no longer recognize the beauty and blessing of shared life. But Christianity is concerned with interdependence. God doesn’t tell us to live for...
Weighty Words on the Meaning of a Husband’s...
onesixsix:
August 5, 2009 | By: John Piper What follows is one of the greatest reasons for a man to get married and stay married: not the rapturous flame of eros, but the refining fires of holiness.
No relationship is more clearly commanded to model the death of Christ. No relationship is more costly—in both senses of that word (painful and precious).
This quote comes from one of C. S....
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“Whether mentioned in Scripture or not, the transgender movement clashes with...”
– The Transgender Moment | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction
On Valentine’s Day 2000, right after I found an apartment, I was ready to tell Allen our marriage was over. Allen took me to a nice restaurant, then we drove to a beautiful place where stars lit the sky. Coldly, I informed Allen I didn’t love him anymore. He broke down in tears saying this wasn’t what he wanted, that he still loved me.
I wasn’t expecting his heartbroken...
Irreconcilable Differences—So?
But Barbara and I are compatible on one thing: divorce isn’t an option. So we simply decided we were going to make this thing work in spite of the fact that we were so incompatible. We didn’t decide it in a day, and we didn’t decide it with gusto and optimism. We simply felt we had no choice but to learn how to live with a person so utterly alien to us. And it was in that...
“Though compatibility is good and enjoyable as far as it goes, it never goes far...”
– Irreconcilable Differences—So?
There is also the question of just how much a wife who is the main breadwinner enjoys her role. Remember the basic question that all wives have: “Does he love me as much as I love him?” Women are basically insecure about this, and if a wife is out there doing the providing, bringing home the money while he stays home, her insecurity goes up, not down. She wonders, “Would he...
Adam does not expect Eve to have a baby and hand the baby to him so she can go back to work. Those who advocate domestic equality promote this idea, but after doing my PhD dissertation on effective fathers, I would not agree. This is not to downplay a woman’s abilities and her desire for a career. Women can be called to positions of important leadership (see Judges 4:4), but I want to...
“Christians need to get real about marriage: it’s a covenant helpmate thing...”
– The Case for Early Marriage | Christianity Today
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“The Christian idea of marriage is based on Christ’s words that a man and...”
– C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
“Insiders know that a good marriage is hard work, and that its challenges often...”
– The Case for Early Marriage | Christianity Today